Do we need distance to make us closer

That's the question pondering in my head right now .There's that old saying distance makes the heart grow fonder.Is that really true.I always thought that being stuck up someones ass all the time made you closer.But I guess i had it wrong. It seems to me when your stuck up someones ass all the time you tend to get so lost in them that you forget who you are as a person. Trying so hard to focus on your loved ones needs and desires that you forget what your needs were as a person. I always thought it was a good thing to completely indulge yourself in that person ,because when your in love that's all that matters. To me growing old with some one is the last step in life .I know a few people that have long distance relationships and it always seems good. The talk about what they did that day, what they ate and there dreams the night before.And just getting to know each other mentally seems to be more fulfilling than the physical.My question is this why cant we have both. When you look at each other all day you take for granted what you have.Then when its gone you bitch and moan about how bad you miss it. Then the "if i had a second chance " bull sh*t comes into play.If you did what it took to keep a strong honest relationship you would have no regrets. When I'm in a relationship i try to give it my all that way if we spilt ways i know i did everything i could to keep it going.The bottom line is whether long distance or up under someones ass if your not happy in the relationship ,open your mouth and say something. Life is to short to be half steppin. Be real to yourself ,when it all comes down to it you are all you have in the end .Even if you have kids,they grow up ,move on and have kids of there own. Love yourself ( Fat ,skinny,ugly,pretty,light skin, dark as hell, pasty,nappy hair , good hair just love you first. And when you do everything and everyone will fall into place.